Today I met a man in more grief than I could imagine as he recounted the story of his son dying. He looked older than he was. His hair was a mess, the bag under his eye made it seem like he hadn’t slept in days, he looked dead almost. It was the father of Gavin Cato, Carmel Cato. The man ran a gambit of emotions while I was there, almost as if he did not know how to properly deal with his grief. He had emotional ADHD it seemed. He began aloof and disconnected, almost as if he had no real say about what happened. He second-guessed himself often, but in the end he told me that the child, his son, was hit. That is all he said, it di not seem on purpose on purpose. As time went on, and the man sat in his grief for longer, his other sides began to show, his angry sides, vengeful sides, sides full of rage. Suddenly he was full of emotion, full of anger. He was even angry towards the Jewish Community, even though he made it seem as if he did not find the accident purposeful, but he was especially mad at the “useless, racist justice system” for systemically letting them down time and time again. He was erratic in behavior, but he wasn’t scary to me. He was purposeful in his hate, even when he was fast-changing in his grief.
Cato is not, I believe specifically hateful or as loud and rageful as other people I have interviewed, and he shall be portrayed as such. He lost his son, there has to be a real, extreme sadness behind everything he says because that is what I felt as he spoke to me. He was pained, at times hysterical, but other times subdued, and this is something i will have to work hard to get right. I need to be able to show this natural transition of his rage and his guilt to show what he was actually like, to try to accurately portray him. He is a complex man with very complex feelings right now.
Today I met a man in more grief than I could imagine as he recounted the story of his son dying. He looked older than he was. His hair was a mess, the bag under his eye made it seem like he hadn’t slept in days, he looked dead almost. It was the father of Gavin Cato, Carmel Cato. The man ran a gambit of emotions while I was there, almost as if he did not know how to properly deal with his grief. He had emotional ADHD it seemed. He began aloof and disconnected, almost as if he had no real say about what happened. He second-guessed himself often, but in the end he told me that the child, his son, was hit. That is all he said, it di not seem on purpose on purpose. As time went on, and the man sat in his grief for longer, his other sides began to show, his angry sides, vengeful sides, sides full of rage. Suddenly he was full of emotion, full of anger. He was even angry towards the Jewish Community, even though he made it seem as if he did not find the accident purposeful, but he was especially mad at the “useless, racist justice system” for systemically letting them down time and time again. He was erratic in behavior, but he wasn’t scary to me. He was purposeful in his hate, even when he was fast-changing in his grief.
Cato is not, I believe specifically hateful or as loud and rageful as other people I have interviewed, and he shall be portrayed as such. He lost his son, there has to be a real, extreme sadness behind everything he says because that is what I felt as he spoke to me. He was pained, at times hysterical, but other times subdued, and this is something i will have to work hard to get right. I need to be able to show this natural transition of his rage and his guilt to show what he was actually like, to try to accurately portray him. He is a complex man with very complex feelings right now.
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